Chapter Summary : The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down (How to be Calm in a Busy World) -HAEMIN SUNIM

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(This article is a chapter summary of the book mentioned. The most important and basic chapter of the book which we all can relate and can learn something which can be applied to our super busy lives to calm it down for a moment, for good).



When everything around me is moving so fast, I stop and ask, “Is it the world that’s busy, or is it my mind?”

The author explains the situation with an example: A dear friend of her (a buddhist nun) oversaw the construction of a meditation hall in her temple.

She described the construction process in the following way: “When it came time to place tiles on the roof, I saw tiles everywhere I went. I noticed the material they were made of, their thickness, their design. And then, when it was time to install the floor, all I could see were floors. I naturally zeroed in on the color, origin, pattern and durability”.

When we look at the outside world, we are looking at only a small part that interests us. The world we see is not the entire universe but a limited one that the mind cares about. However, to our minds, that small world is the entire universe.

The world comes to exist because we are aware of it. We cannot live in a reality of which we are unaware. What our mind focuses on becomes our world. The world is experienced according to the state of one’s mind. When your mind is joyful and compassionate, the world is too. When your mind is filled with negative thoughts, the world appears negative, too. When you feel overwhelmed and busy, remember that you are not powerless because “When your mind rests, the world also rests”.

  • When Life Disappoints, Rest a Moment

When trust is shattered, when hopes are dashed, when a loved one leaves you, before doing anything, just pause your life and rest a moment.

Surround yourself with close friends, share food and drinks while slowly letting out the stories of disappointment, betrayal, and hurt.

Head to a movie theater alone or with a friend, watch comedy, laugh out loud until it hurts, and shed few tears, as if nobody is watching.

Find a song that speaks to your heart, listen to it over and over again as if it is healing your wounded soul.

If none of that helps, go for a vacation you always wanted. All by yourself. Just you and the road.

After spending sometime alone, go to your own sacred place, close your eyes and clear your mind. Invoke the heart of compassion and feel the embrace of acceptance.


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